Apr 25, 2018

Signs Of A Toxic Friendship





Have you ever been around a person who always seems unhappy, and complains about everything around them? You often feel drained after being with them, and eventually, they unknowingly project these feelings of negativity and unhappiness onto you? You may not realize how toxic someone can be simply because you’re either caught up in the friendship, or you’ve just become accustomed to their else’s behavior.


10 Signs of a toxic friend:

  1. Toxic friends constantly speak negatively about others
  2. Toxic friends can be inconsistent
  3. Toxic friends lack empathy
  4. Toxic friends want attention on them, instead of you
  5. Toxic friends make you question your worth and value
  6. Toxic friends constantly discredit you
  7. Toxic friends aren’t consistent in your friendship
  8. Toxic friends only respond when it’s convenient for them
  9. Toxic friends envy your success
  10. Toxic friends are poor listeners







So, instead of allowing their negative mindset and energy to project onto you, learning to set healthy boundaries can be an effective tool in dealing with toxic friendships.


A healthy boundary is simply a space between you and another person. Think of it as a fence between two neighbors, both have their own space, yet live in close proximity. The fence is simply there to show whose property belongs to whom. This allows each neighbor to respect the other person’s space. Learning to set our own healthy boundaries, in any relationship, is an exercise in personal freedom and respect. This allows you to get to know yourself and what you stand. When setting a healthy boundary, you must learn to communicate without blaming yourself or others. When you are able to communicate, healthily, there is honesty. Learn, to be honest about how you feel, regardless of the situation.


An unhealthy boundary is when a consequence is not set. In any relationship, whether with a parent, sibling, or friend, never state something you are not willing to follow through on. Be at a point where you know when you are ready to walk away, physically or mentally. Setting healthy boundaries is essential in long-lasting relationships, but when you do not re-enforce them and continue to accept someone else’s behavior, it only gives the other person an excuse to continue the same old behavior. When you choose to set a healthy boundary, you are not making a threat. You are simply giving someone else choices and the consequences of their unhealthy decisions. You cannot control what another person chooses to do with his or her life, but you can control what another person chooses to do with you. Sometimes this means letting go of unhealthy people in our lives so we can become the healthiest we are meant to be. Learning to set healthy boundaries will not only give you respect from others but will inhibit growth beyond measure.



10 tips for setting healthy boundaries:

  1. Identify the actions and behaviors you find unacceptable
  2. Learn to say no sometimes
  3. Know that you do have the right to personal freedom
  4. Practice self-awareness
  5. Recognize and acknowledge your own feelings
  6. Make self-care a priority
  7. Seek support
  8. Give yourself permission
  9. Take time apart from those you love
  10. Be assertive and kind



And don’t forget to subscribe to get our FREE Ebook, here!



  1. Katherine

    April 26th, 2018 at 7:21 PM

    Great article. Something I wish I read last year. Love the pictures.

  2. Attained Beauty

    April 26th, 2018 at 8:50 PM

    Thanks so much, Katherine! xxx

  3. molly

    April 30th, 2018 at 11:35 PM

    Love this post! So important to have positive people in your life.


  4. Attained Beauty

    May 1st, 2018 at 5:01 PM

    Thank you so much for the encouragement, Molly! xxx

  5. Face to Curls

    May 7th, 2018 at 8:10 PM

    That is a great list and so very true. That is why you keep a small and I mean very small group of friends that truly have your best interest at heart. x

    Ann-Marie |

  6. Attained Beauty

    May 9th, 2018 at 8:32 PM

    So true, Ann-Marie 🙂 One of my favorite quotes is ‘Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future’. The relationships we have with others can impact us greatly.

  7. Monique | SkeletonWeirdo

    May 14th, 2018 at 12:22 PM

    Relatable. Kinda going through something right now and there are like 4 points, in your list, that apply to this particular friendship. AARGH. need to set boundaries for sure.

    Beautifully written!. And i love the photos.

  8. Attained Beauty

    May 15th, 2018 at 9:30 PM

    Ahh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. This too shall soon pass, and there’s a reason for everything. Just trust the process 😉

  9. Kim

    May 22nd, 2018 at 6:13 PM

    Its helpful to know the signs of a toxic friend, as you never want negativity in life that’s not needed! Thanks for the tips!

    Kim |

  10. Attained Beauty

    May 28th, 2018 at 9:18 PM

    Yes!! Negativity can affect so many overall areas of your life. Thank you for the encouragement 🙂

  11. Gail

    June 18th, 2018 at 2:55 PM

    I couldn’t agree more! I read a book called The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It affirms everything on this post! <3

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *