Jan 9, 2018

Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable



Learning to be comfortable in uncomfortable situations is probably one of the most important skills you can attain in life. If you learn this skill, you can succeed in most likely anything. So why do so many of us avoid uncomfortable situations like the plague?

When you’re challenged, you’re asked to do or become something you may not be familiar with. That means acquiring a new set of skills and pushing the boundaries. Along with that often comes negative emotions, such as fear and disappointment. But what would happen if we removed all of those negative feelings?

There are so many things that can come along with “doing the uncomfortable”. The adrenaline you feel when you finish the race, the feelings of accomplishment when you finish that big project, or even just the simple feelings of joy when you successfully get through an uncomfortable situation.

If you always stay right where you are in life, never pushing yourself to take the next step, you won’t see very much growth or change long term. Trust me, I had severe anxiety when I was younger and was often put in very uncomfortable situations. As terrifying as they were, I know that each one of them gave me a small sense of confidence and helped put me on the path to attaining growth. I know without those uncomfortable seasons in my life, I wouldn’t be the women I am today.

Below are a couple paragraphs from my Ebook, Attained Beauty How Self-Love Trumps Makeup. All align with the idea and benefits that come along with being comfortable in the uncomfortable 😉


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Growth and change 

Growth and change can be very intimidating at times. Some people thrive on change, looking at it as an exciting new adventure. While others fear the thought of change. Whether you like it or not, change is inevitable. Some change can be difficult, but some change can be a powerful tool to help you grow.

I have learned to embrace changes from a young age. During my life, I have lived on two different continents and in over twelve different houses, changed over six schools, went through a tough divorce, and was homeless for a year and a half. At first change can seem tiresome and difficult, but eventually, you get so used to the changes in your life so much that if it doesn’t come for a while, you find yourself moving furniture around in your bedroom just to feel something changing. Moving to a different country and being homeless have both allowed me to become more flexible and open-minded. This has given me a different understanding of cultural differences and appreciation for what I have been given.

So often people avoid change or growth simply to stay in their comfort zone. Looking at where I am today, and blessings I have had in my life I realize that these are all the results of changes that occurred in my past. I encourage you to embrace that first step of change with acceptance, welcoming it as a new opportunity to grow.


10 Benefits that can come from change:

1.)  Personal Growth

2.)  Adaptability

3.)  Strength

4.)  New opportunities

5.)  Life lessons

6.)  Appreciation

7.)  Flexibility

8.)  Success

9.)  Humility

10.)  Passion



How to look at stress

I remember watching Dr. Abraham Twerski speak in a short video on responding to stress. He began by talking about how a lobster grows. “A lobster is a soft mushy animal that lives inside of a rigid shell. That ridged shell does not expand… As the lobster grows that shell becomes very confining, and the lobster feels under pressure and uncomfortable. The lobster will then go under a rock to protect itself from predatory fish, cast off its shell and produce a new one. Well, eventually that shell becomes very uncomfortable as it grows… so then the lobster goes back under the rock and repeats this process numerous times. The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is because it feels uncomfortable… We have to realize the times of stress are also times of signals for growth…” Hearing this analogy, for responding to stress, often reminds me to look at a stressful situation and think, “How can I grow from this, and what can I learn?” Choosing to think in a positive way about stress like this can help change our perspective and eliminate stress.




Choosing Happiness

We cannot control what happens around us, but we can control what happens on the inside. It is easy to get caught up and worried about your life and the thoughts that others have towards you. This is especially common in modeling. In my industry, I often find myself being so worried about how I look or perform, that it takes away the joy from the present moment. Through the years, I have realized that worrying about something does not fix tomorrow’s problem, it only takes away today’s peace. When I start to feel worried, I ask myself the following questions:


1.)  How would I feel if I wasn’t worried?

2.)  Does worrying help me solve my problems?

3.)  Is there another reason why I’m feeling worried?

4.)  What is the worst outcome?

5.)  What, specifically, am I worried about?

6.)  How different would I feel if I wasn’t worried?


Read a similar post on ‘Learning How To Love Yourself’




Practicing Gratitude

We all have the power to decide how we choose to feel in a situation. Choosing to be grateful can give you a positive mindset and allow you to see what you do have, instead of what you do not. Choosing to be grateful means trying your best to focus on the positives of life, instead of the negatives. When we take the time to appreciate everything around us, we then realize how blessed we actually are.

Practicing gratitude can change your whole perspective on life. If I am every feeling sorry for myself, or frustrated with doing a job I do not enjoy, I try to take a step back and think about all I have been blessed with. There are many things for which I am grateful for: my family and close friends, a safe place to call home, my healthy body, my faith, and having the freedom to travel the world and meet such inspirational people. I am grateful for lessons I have learned, and the strength I have attained through them. Next time you are having a bad day or something does not happen the way you would have liked, I encourage you to take a step back and think of the things in your life for which you can be grateful. Visiting a homeless shelter or hospital can be a good way to put things into perspective. When we see what others do not have, we are more able to see what we do have. I encourage you to try to make a conscious decision to be grateful and appreciate everything you have been blessed with in your life.


I hope some of these thoughts have inspired you and some way and leave you feeling empowered to look at ‘being uncomfortable’ differently!

Anna Marie


  1. Simone

    January 9th, 2018 at 4:09 PM

    Love this post! I have challenged myself to do a gratitude journal and your suggestions have help me think of other things I am grateful for. Thank you!

  2. Attained Beauty

    January 10th, 2018 at 5:58 PM

    Thank you, Simone! That’s so good to hear!

  3. Kalyn

    January 10th, 2018 at 7:20 AM

    Thank you for writing this. Perfect timing to read this. I am so proud of you!! Such Beautiful words of truth and encouragement. Your beauty radiates from the inside:)

  4. Attained Beauty

    January 10th, 2018 at 5:59 PM

    Awe, thank you so much Kalyn! Much appreciated! xxx

  5. Curlywhippedtee/tee vaughn

    January 12th, 2018 at 11:57 PM

    LOVE this article. I have trouble with this all the time.

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