For the longest time, I didn’t believe I could do the things I wanted in life. Mainly because of the lack of confidence needed for me to achieve those things. For some people, confidence is hardwired into their system. But for others (most of us to say the least), it doesn’t come that naturally. It needs to be practiced. Becoming more confident definitely isn’t easy, but with hard work it is achievable! You just need to figure out your unique roadmap to confidence 😉
Personally, I have learned that accepting and loving yourself are key tools in having self-confidence. When a woman (or man) is comfortable in their own skin, it is very appealing. Having worked in the modeling industry I can tell you that the girls who love and accept who they are and have healthy habits seemed much more confident than those who didn’t.
It’s also important to remember to NEVER lose yourself under the pressure of someone else’s version of beauty. This can definitely take some time to learn, especially in today’s culture! With the rise of social media, someone is easily able to portray an “image” made of constructions, such as makeup and photoshop, to illustrate someone they’re not. To be genially authentic and real is to be grateful and happy with wherever you’re at, right now. Learn what you’re good at and what you’re not, and welcome both.
Along my journey, I have found these three, not so common, traits have had the biggest effect on my self-confidence:
Making Yourself Uncomfortable On A Regular Basis
So often people avoid being uncomfortable simply to stay within their comfort zone. Looking at where I am today, and the blessings I have had in my life I realize that these are all the results of uncomfortable changes that occurred in my past. I encourage you to embrace that first step of change with acceptance, welcoming it as a new opportunity to grow.
Know Where You Get Your Validation And Identity From
One of my favorite quotes is “If you live for someone’s praise, you’ll die by their rejection”. Have you noticed, especially in dating or romantic relationships, that one person often makes the other person like a function ‘god’? They get all of their worth, identity, and value from that person, and if that person hurts or offends them it’s a HUGE deal. As common as this is in dating relationships, I’ve seen it shift into day-to-day friendships, and family situations as well. Without realizing it we can become so enmeshed with people, and before we know it, we need validation and identity from that person in order to feel good about ourselves. Where or who do you get your identity from? Do you find your identity in God or a person? If that person was no longer in your life, would you still be making the decisions you’re making?
Live A Lifestyle Of Personal Growth
Good seasons come and go, as do the tough ones. Learn from every season, because every season of life has something to teach us. Maybe the season of life you are in right now has shifted unexpectedly. Perhaps you were healthy and now you are ill, calm and now you are stressed, working and now you’re unemployed, or maybe a relationship has recently ended. Whatever season you are in remember that no season last’s forever, and not all shifts in a season are negative. Some are simply there to push us into places that help change our hearts, mind, or will. Embrace each season, good or bad, with confidence and an open mind. Life is beautiful, but it is also a process.
I hope some of these tips have inspired you in some way! Always remember, becoming the best version of yourself will allow you to create your own confidence, unique to you. Take it, and show it to the world. What are some of your favorites ways to help boost your confidence? Let us know in the comments below!
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